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- Sat Jun 16, 2012 5:13 am #308437 Its really crazy how many women go through this in 'silence'... Idk about your wife Brian but mine is embarrassed by it and sees it as weakness, which in turn only makes it worse. I think the more women share these experiences the more it will help them not feel so alone "why is this happening to me this bad and not so much to others"
Family has been around to help with the kiddos and what not.
Brooke shields wrote a book on her depression. reading that helped her a bit, knowing someone went through the same thing and could put into words things my wife couldn't describe.
I kept her out of bed all day today. Things have been ok until around the times she is going to sleep. something triggers the anxiety. I'm definitely all up inthe drug side of it with my knowledge of meds. Monday is her first psychiatric appt so we'll see how things go.
Cant express the feslings i have just to be able to use y'all as a sounding boarx. But i figure like i said before....this could very well help someone else through the hard times similar or exactly like this. Thanks again everyone for the support.
Brian, hopefully your wifes cass is just acute and passes quickly. GL to you both and if you need to vent/talk hit me up. Anyone else as well.

- Wed Jun 20, 2012 9:29 pm #308921 Reading this has brought back as well as highlighted issue I suffer from. I get seasonal affective disorder and since my son has been born I have found it harder to coupe and like your wife I'm embarrassed by item and don't think that many people will understand why I feel as I do but just reading this not only shows that your wife is not alone do its nothing to be emarased about but also so may wish her well and care about you and your family.

Maybe let her read to show how many you and all of us here wish her well. I do find keeping busy is one of the best ways to get over my SAD though big trips sometime aren't the best first option little steps are always easier to take try starting small with day out for you as a family then try a short break and build up to a few days away.

As many have already said reassuring her that you love and care for her is key. I hope this will pass son for her and you can all start enjoy being a family coz that's what you guys are please stay strong I know it's hard.

One last thing sun light, lots of sunlight it really helps me especially between 11 & 3 when the sun is at its highest.

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- Wed Jun 20, 2012 10:09 pm #308923 Hope all is well Chance!

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- Wed Jun 20, 2012 10:30 pm #308925 Thank you Ecc0 for your story/input! and Poorman, thanks! Things have been on the up and up.

Been going on walks nearly every night with the fam. She's been focusing on getting up and being outside by 7am even just to sit out there and watch our girls play. Over all... she's getting there slowly but surely! thanks all for the support!

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- Fri Jun 22, 2012 4:48 pm #309083

Thank you Ecc0 for your story/input! and Poorman, thanks! Things have been on the up and up.

Been going on walks nearly every night with the fam. She's been focusing on getting up and being outside by 7am even just to sit out there and watch our girls play. Over all... she's getting there slowly but surely! thanks all for the support!

Just be your self and be there for her. With our daughters medical conditions due to a horrid delivery were always broke and stressed to the max. No depression here but the 3 weeks our daughter was fighting for her life in the nicu was though. Then having my girlfriend in the hospital with an infection for a week of it was even harder. I can relate to times being tough, the best advice i can give is to live life and strive for happiness.

- Mon Jun 25, 2012 12:25 pm #309320 For sure dude.

Damn thats pretty scary/crazy I cant even imagine the worries you had going through your head through it all! They both doing good now? all healthy and well?

- Mon Jun 25, 2012 12:29 pm #309321 *Update*

So things have been looking up. She's getting back to being normal/happy. There are still moments but who DOESNT moments of sadness. So its the typical normal emotions. The Depression seems to be in check. The Anxiety was still hanging on there for a bit but its happening way, way less. thanks again for all the support and just being my sounding board just to get it/things off my chest!

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- Mon Jun 25, 2012 1:38 pm #309331

For sure dude.

Damn thats pretty scary/crazy I cant even imagine the worries you had going through your head through it all! They both doing good now? all healthy and well?

My girl friend is all well. My daughter is still on allot of medications and has some neurological problems still. She also gets physical therapy twice a week to build her muscle tone. I'm praying some day soon every thing will be normal. I'm glad your wife is doing better thats great news.

- Mon Jun 25, 2012 3:16 pm #309334 New to the forum but when i saw this it hit home, my ex-girlfriend of 5 years suffers from depression and her family has a long history of mental illness. I had no idea until we had a few months of stressful living and she tried to commit suicide by cutting her wrist. All i remember is coming home and hearing her talking in the bathroom so i went in and i will never forget that image. She just keep saying how sorry she was and how she loved me. All i can say is counseling helps alot, women need to talk to someone about there problems and sometimes they find it better to talk to someone who wont judge them or has gone through the same thing. The medication is big too make sure they take it even if they say they feel better its given for a reason. I don't know how many times my ex wanted to stop taking the medication because she felt like she didn't need it.


If your a spouse/boyfriend of someone with depression remember to look after yourself, its all to easy to forget when your taking care of someone. Make sure you do something to take some of the stress off (cars,fishing,exercise) Even if you need to talk with someone about what your going through there are support groups for everyone out there.

- Mon Jun 25, 2012 4:43 pm #309339

For sure dude.

Damn thats pretty scary/crazy I cant even imagine the worries you had going through your head through it all! They both doing good now? all healthy and well?

My girl friend is all well. My daughter is still on allot of medications and has some neurological problems still. She also gets physical therapy twice a week to build her muscle tone. I'm praying some day soon every thing will be normal. I'm glad your wife is doing better thats great news.

With the love and support from you and your GF Your lil girl will come out on top! Definitely have her and you guys in my thoughts homie! and thank you again!

- Mon Jun 25, 2012 4:48 pm #309340

New to the forum but when i saw this it hit home, my ex-girlfriend of 5 years suffers from depression and her family has a long history of mental illness. I had no idea until we had a few months of stressful living and she tried to commit suicide by cutting her wrist. All i remember is coming home and hearing her talking in the bathroom so i went in and i will never forget that image. She just keep saying how sorry she was and how she loved me. All i can say is counseling helps alot, women need to talk to someone about there problems and sometimes they find it better to talk to someone who wont judge them or has gone through the same thing. The medication is big too make sure they take it even if they say they feel better its given for a reason. I don't know how many times my ex wanted to stop taking the medication because she felt like she didn't need it.


If your a spouse/boyfriend of someone with depression remember to look after yourself, its all to easy to forget when your taking care of someone. Make sure you do something to take some of the stress off (cars,fishing,exercise) Even if you need to talk with someone about what your going through there are support groups for everyone out there.

Thats pretty intense dude. Sorry you/her had to go through that. I'm positive I was one day/hour/minute away from coming home to that same thing. Luckily we got her help and things are on the up and up.

Thanks for sharing your personal experience. This originally was just for me to vent my situation, to voice my feelings. But its really turned into something that most can see, read and relate to. Possibly even help allow a member or a members loved one to speak up and ask for help before it gets to the level we've all shared. Thats the biggest thing... people try to hold it in, thinking they dont want to look weak. or feel embarrased.

Lots of people go through this and it only helps to share!